My friend Deirdre loved and cherished all those who crossed her path. She welcomed people from different faiths and different cultures. Her death was so amazing with people of many faiths joining together to send her on her way. I wrote this poem following that experience. The “all shall be well” is a loose copy from Hildegard of Bingen.

The Death of De
The light is waning and the gloaming is here. There is a hush in the turning of the earth it holds its breath for just a moment. We stand watch sensing each breath matching it with our own anxious with each pause while darkness encompasses the room. Her soul loosens but holds I sign the cross on her brow and Christ is here A Hindu friend joins and her prayers are added. Another comes and the prayers to Allah are lifted up. With loving hands we anoint her with sweet lotion brought from France by another. All faith is here, we can feel God's gentle breeze, there is true communion My friend is held in the arms of love She is suspended between life and death through the night. As the sun lifts itself into the heaven love lifts her on her journey and with the smallest wisper she is gone. Behind her from the air come the words... All shall be well and all shall be well and all things shall be well.











Last night my husband asked the question: “Do you think that because of his age they are not really trying hard to fix this?” I didn’t really have an answer but I do wonder if that plays a part in this scenario.
I refused to be dismissed. I refuse to go gently. Below are the words of Dylan Thomas in this poem for his father.
Today there was a terrible tragedy in our area. A C 130 military aircraft crashed just after takeoff. They have not said yet about survivors but a video of the crash (taken by someone who heard the aircraft and thought it sounded funny) shows the plane going in a nose dive. It seems unlikely that anyone survived. We have not heard how many were aboard but somewhere between five and nine crew.
Birth – death. Funny how they go together. I loved an episode of “Call the Midwife” where a grandfather to be is dying as his grandson is born. He makes a comment about the two of them passing. I really love that thought…..one generation turning life over to the next.
People can say stupid things. It is amazing to me that they don’t really think about what they are saying. When I ran a grief support group I heard some goodies.
Most importantly offer compassion and love. Nothing is more needed. If you have suffered a similar loss you may understand better what they are going through but don’t assume it will be exactly the same. Just being there is critical. Don’t just say something…..do something!
