Change?

The last 3 or 4 months I felt as is my life was on hold. It now feels different to have my husband’s surgery behind us and move forward. In some ways I have put my life on hold. I haven’t done any mediations or scheduled any appointments. Now I want to get back to my life. There will be healing time and check ups but that can be managed.

It has been strange to plan little for myself and I miss it. I look forward to what I call “a new normal.” I have discovered that life is never consistently normal. We can go along for a while and this something changes our plans and our perspective. I have decided to call this “new normal’ and not expect to get back to the old one.

change is a process

Life is constantly changing. That is one thing we can be sure of. The trick is to learn how to deal with the changes. Also it is important to know that nothing will always stay the same. When we are young we hope for change—growing up and getting to do the adult things. When we have been adults for long enough we realize that it may not be what we imagined.

As children we don’t understand that with adulthood comes increased responsibility. We are the ones who have to make decisions about life altering things and we don’t always choose the easy path. It was a lot of fun when we weren’t the responsible one.

Change is one of the stressors that can set off anxiety and depression and we do have to learn ways to manage it. Some people love change but I am not one of them. It can be hard to let go of a calm and peaceful time and move through something that is not much fun. For me, acceptance that change is inevitable is the first step and then to imagine weathering my way through the storm. Finding any good that is in the change helps and picturing what life will be like on the other side. When change hits us suddenly it is harder to get through. If we expect it we can think our way ahead and do better.

new life loading concept on blackboard

Change is a challenge we can win!

 

6 thoughts on “Change?”

  1. “When we are young we hope for change—growing up and getting to do the adult things. When we have been adults for long enough we realize that it may not be what we imagined.”

    So much truth in your words. Adulthood is an eye-opener. The more you see all the adult things you dreamed of as a child, the more you just want to be a child again. So much responsiblities attached to growing up. So much.

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  2. I wrote what I felt was a really good reply to this when I first read it, then accidentally deleted it. So I will try again. In the last 8 months I have lost the life I loved and cherished. Almost nothing is the same. I would not have gotten as far as I have without the direction and guidance of God, the always there support of my family and close friends, and a whole lot of prayer.
    There is a certain peace I have that has to be God-given that keeps me from sinking into self-pity. Thank you Lord for that and all these blessings. My new daily prayer is : Lord, grant me strength for today and bright hope for tomorrow. Amen +

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